Questions for Exploring a New Kink Activity
- What excites me about this? What do I imagine when I think about engaging in it?
- Is there a 'top' and a 'bottom' involved in this activity? Would I prefer to take one role over the other or would I prefer the flexibility to do both?
- What risks does this kink have? How likely are they?
- What are some ways that people mitigate these risks?
- Do I have any health issues or take any medications that may affect how I engage in this kink? How do I communicate those to a partner?
- Do I have any traumatic or bad experiences that could be triggered by engaging with this kink? How do I communicate those to a partner?
- What feelings might I have? How can I take care of myself emotionally after engaging in this activity?
- What materials might I need? Where can I source them? How expensive are they?
- What kind of prep work might be required before and after?
- How can I evaluate the safety of a potential play partner? What kinds of questions should I be sure to ask them?
- What kind of person do I imagine doing this activity with? What kind of connection would I like to have with them? Should there be a power dynamic involved?
- What kind of person would I never want to do this activity with? What are the signs that someone would NOT be a compatible partner for me for this activity?
- Are there people in my area experienced with this activity? Do they offer workshops or teach people privately?
- Do I know enough about the activity to evaluate a teacher or mentor?
- Is this an activity I could try on my own or with a person with a similar lack of experience or is this an activity that people commonly recommend doing with an experienced person for the first time?
